What Kind of Unglued Am I? {Third Week for the Unglued Blog Hop}

You can see my blog post on the first and second week here and here. Lysa Terkeurst explains in chapter 5 of Unglued that there are four kinds of unglued reactions.  There are:

1. Exploders who shame themselves
2. Exploders who blame others
3. Stuffers who build barriers
4. Stuffers who collect retaliation rocks.

Lysa says that she can react in all four ways at times, depending on who she is dealing with.  I react in all four ways also.  If it’s my husband or kids I’m relating to I tend to explode and then feel terrible afterwards.  I apologize and am slightly embarrassed that I let my emotions get the better of me.  I  remind myself that I had made a promise not to explode anymore.

If I am dealing with a friend or my parents I tend to stuff and build barriers.  It effects the relationship a little at a time.  I beat myself up for not being able to be honest.

I can also collect retaliation rocks when dealing with my husband.  I have a hard time letting go of all the things that have hurt or irritated me.  I can also explode and blame him.  It’s his fault that I exploded.  If he wouldn’t of said that comment to me I wouldn’t have reacted that way.  Boy is my husband lucky!  He gets all four of them!

Lysa reminds us that we need to bring our raw emotions to Jesus and let Him help us deal with them. We need a healthy balance between honesty and peacemaking.  We do need to be honest about how we feel, but we need to do it in a godly way.  Lysa says ,Truth and godliness walk hand in hand.”

Our memory verse for chapter 5 was 1 Peter 5:8.  It reads “Be self-controlled and alert.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”  When I am having an unglued moment I am not expressing self-control.  I need to be alert to the triggers that set off my exploding tendencies. Our enemy wants us to be off balance and lose it.  During these times we are not being controlled by the spirit, and that’s exactly what the enemy wants.

In chapter 6 Lysa asks us to dig a little deeper into the four different reactions.  I am looking forward to seeing what I find when I go beneath the surface.  What kind of reactor do you think you are?